A Closet Full of Clothes and Nothing to Wear

I’m not a good shopper. It’s cheap sexy clothes just not my thing. I don’t enjoy it and I always end up disappointed. Obviously I’m not talking about grocery shopping, although I could be. But that’s a story for another day. I’m talking about clothes — the main source of stress in my life. Yes, the MAIN source. It isn’t having a full time job — it’s having nothing to wear to it. It’s not running four boys all over the county — it’s that I’m not properly attired to do it. Clothes shopping is the constant thorn in my side.

It could be my shopping process. I don’t usually leave the house before 8:30 at night. That’s when the homework is done, the showers have been finished and young children are neatly tucked in for the night. The last load of laundry for the day has been thrown in the dryer, so out I run. Of course there’s travel time involved, so I have to go to a store in close proximity that stays open late. That pretty much leaves WalMart and Kohl’s.

I choose Kohl’s because I ”expect great things.”  I sprint around the store, grabbing anything that appears like it may fit, but since I have no idea what size I am I grab it in three sizes. Arms loaded, hangers falling all over, I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror. Wow, this time of night the wrinkles seem deeper and the roots seem grayer! I also notice that everything in my hands is black. I hear the voices of my friends and coworkers, ”Get some color.” So I start the sprint again. My clothes shopping technique is eerily similar to the ”Supermarket Sweep” game show style of shopping, but I’ve yet to get the grand prize!

By the time I hit the dressing room I’m exhausted and the announcement is going off that the store is closing in fifteen minutes. I undress quickly, but then I’m stopped DEAD IN MY TRACKS.

Surely it must be the lighting in here…That’s not ME in the mirror, is it? Who designed these mirrors anyway? Clearly, it was a man or some skinny chick with a warped sense of humor. I do not need to see myself from EVERY possible angle before I get my clothes back on. I do not need to know that what I expected is actually true…a chocolate chip cookie dough diet and lack of exercise really can cause cellulite. I don’t need to see that my razor really isn’t as sharp as I thought it was. And are those bumps, humps and lovely lady lumps Fergie sang of supposed to be on my thighs? Because they are not quite as smooth as they once may have been. And where did all this extra skin come from? I convince myself that a tan will make it all better. I vow for the umpteenth time to eat less and work out more.

I can’t take it anymore so I start to try on the clothes. The announcement rings out again-the store is closing but will reopen for my ”convenience” in the morning. Nothing about this is convenient. NOTHING. I try on pants, all three sizes — too big, too small, none just right. Can I really be no size? I try on tops-too loose, too low cut, too matronly, too ”young” looking. Who makes this crap, anyway? I gather it all up and throw it in the unwanted bin. All but a pair of socks and some pajama bottoms.

By now the announcement is, ”Hey lumpy white lady making a mess in the fitting room, we want to go home.” I go to the register and am greeted with dirty looks. I pay and wait for the security guard to unlock the doors to let me out.

I approach the mini, the only car in the lot. I drive home avoiding the Dunkin drive thru calling my name. I enter a quiet house, greeted only by the dog. I tidy up, slide into my new pjs and get into bed. I try to think of the next time I’ll be able to get to a store again, but no open date comes to mind, and I’m exhausted from this excursion anyway. But it’s hard to fall asleep while I wonder what I’m going to wear to work tomorrow.

Are You Waiting to Buy Clothes Until You Lose Weight?

Are you in the midst of losing weight and as plus size shapewear a result  are holding off purchasing new clothes in order to save time and money? OR I’m sure we have all heard someone say something along the lines of ”I’m not going to buy new clothing until I lose some weight.”

To this mindset plus size womens clothes I always say – What are you waiting for? Have you considered the opportunities that may be bypassing you in the meantime? There is no reason to put your life and goals on hold just because you have weight to lose.

Let me demonstrate this concept  further with a fictitious illustration — Sally has made a resolution to lose weight and has decided to hold off purchasing new clothing until she is at her ideal weight, which may take up to 9 months perhaps longer. At the same time, she also would like to be promoted at work and find romance. Her existing wardrobe is not reflecting how she would like to be received at work or on the dating scene.

Is it wise for Sally to continue wearing clothing to work and social engagements (including dates) that does not give off her best energy for the next 9 months, possibly more? Absolutely not! She is putting her work and romance goals at risk.

During times of weight transition, to be time- and budget-smart while maximizing your image potential, follow these 4 easy steps to ensure the image you are displaying is in alignment with your short-term goals:

1.Take an inventory of your short-term goals.Estimate and write down how long it will take you to achieve your desired weight. Then write down your short-term goals that you want to achieve during your weight transition. Some examples may include: job change/promotion, finding romance, attract more clients/sales etc.

2.Take an inventory of your short-term image goals.For each short-term goal identified in step 1, write down the image you would like to project in order for the goal to be successfully achieved.

For example if you would like to be promoted at work, the image you would like to project may include words like professional, modern, vibrant, powerful and respected.

3.Take an inventory of your current wardrobe and identify gaps.Review your current wardrobe in light of your short-term image goals identified in step 2. Identify where you can fill in the gaps between your current wardrobe and your short-term image goals. Sometimes you can work with many pieces in your existing wardrobe and just add in a few key staple pieces that are new.

For example, let’s say you are looking to change jobs and you own a classic suit that is still a reasonable fit that works great for job interviews. However, all of the blouses you currently own that go with the suit are outdated (which translates to old-fashioned, resistant to change, outdated thinking). It is very possible that you only need to fill in a gap by adding a new blouse in your color palette and style to refresh the outfit. You could attract a dream job and a salary increase just by spending a small amount of money on a new blouse!

4.Fill in the gaps.Now it’s time to fill in the gaps identified in step 3 by going shopping! Also keep your eyes open for items that can be easily altered during your weight transition.

Now you have 4 easy steps to ensure the image you are displaying is in alignment with your short-term goals during weight loss. You will more than likely want to repeat the above 4 steps periodically throughout your weight loss because as clothing becomes looser, it may not align with your image goals (i.e. the suit in the example above more than likely will not look professional if it becomes extremely loose).

There is no reason to put your goals on hold just because you have some weight to lose. All we really have is the present. Give off your best and most authentic energy today to attract the opportunities your heart desires!